Women are like cats...
If you pester them they never want petted or held. If you leave them alone they will come sit on your lap and put their ass in your face.
OK OK...that was a bit graphic but women really are like cats. Not all of them but most of them to an extent. Let me explain...
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Friday, October 7, 2011
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Life changes...roll with it
Older people seem to live calmly and happy and without a care in the world. Why is that?
They have gained enough experiences in life to cope with whatever comes at them. (for the most part)
We can only deal with things if we have a coping system in place to process the situation. The more experiences you have in life the stronger the coping methods you will devise on the fly. Sometimes you will have to work hard to figure out solutions to your problems. (solutions - coping methods)
They have gained enough experiences in life to cope with whatever comes at them. (for the most part)
We can only deal with things if we have a coping system in place to process the situation. The more experiences you have in life the stronger the coping methods you will devise on the fly. Sometimes you will have to work hard to figure out solutions to your problems. (solutions - coping methods)
Friday, September 30, 2011
Friends vs Lovers
Have you ever thought you loved your friend and could be more? That might be possible. You sure have to have a good connection with someone to be a lover but that doesn't mean it will work with your best friend.
The kind of connections have to be special to work with a mate. You can have a great friend of the opposite sex but not have the feeling of love attached to it. You might not get that amazing feeling in your heart, mind, and stomach when you think of the person. You might think about them all the time. You might hang out with them all the time but that sure doesn't mean its going to work out for anything more.
What is it about a lover that makes them just that? What differentiates a best friend from a lover other than not taking the chance?
The kind of connections have to be special to work with a mate. You can have a great friend of the opposite sex but not have the feeling of love attached to it. You might not get that amazing feeling in your heart, mind, and stomach when you think of the person. You might think about them all the time. You might hang out with them all the time but that sure doesn't mean its going to work out for anything more.
What is it about a lover that makes them just that? What differentiates a best friend from a lover other than not taking the chance?
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Love vs Sex
Love, sex, and sex with love. They are all different. Some say you can't have sex without falling in love. That is crap continued by people that have never had crazy sex with someone they didn't love. Just pure enjoyment.
Love is the addiction you have to someone. That feeling of awesomeness in your heart, mind and soul when you think about that special someone that has the same kind of happiness when you are around them. The same kind of joy. I say addiction not like an obsession where you are a crazy person but where the feeling of enjoyment arises when you think about the person or are around them or hear about them or has anything to do with them. It is not the constant thought of the person. Sure you probably think about them a lot but not constantly.
Love is the addiction you have to someone. That feeling of awesomeness in your heart, mind and soul when you think about that special someone that has the same kind of happiness when you are around them. The same kind of joy. I say addiction not like an obsession where you are a crazy person but where the feeling of enjoyment arises when you think about the person or are around them or hear about them or has anything to do with them. It is not the constant thought of the person. Sure you probably think about them a lot but not constantly.
Monday, September 26, 2011
Emotional/Mental vs. Sexual Compatibility
Most people say don't have sex before you are married. Well that's a great idea and all for many reasons. For instance it will be a huge surprise...hopefully in a good way on your honeymoon night. Then there is the problem with having a kid that one person doesn't want and many other things.
You can be extremely compatible on an emotional/mental level and love being around each other but if you do not have the same sexual wants as your mate then you are going to have some serious friction in that marriage. Most likely it will break your marriage. Sex is intimate and a bonding experience not just pleasure for a married couple. The people that can't understand the difference between sex and love need to read about it.
You can be extremely compatible on an emotional/mental level and love being around each other but if you do not have the same sexual wants as your mate then you are going to have some serious friction in that marriage. Most likely it will break your marriage. Sex is intimate and a bonding experience not just pleasure for a married couple. The people that can't understand the difference between sex and love need to read about it.
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Why people don't say what is on their minds
Some people believe that people should just say what is on their mind so that everything is out in the open so that everyone can clearly understand what is thought about any particular thing or person.
However there is an instinctual and social reason that many people do not say everything they wish.
People generally do not want to be seen as condescending and over opinionated or any other negative trait that people may think of them.
People wish to be liked. Being liked has many advantages that greatly overrule being correct or even perceived as correct or asserted as correct.
However there is an instinctual and social reason that many people do not say everything they wish.
People generally do not want to be seen as condescending and over opinionated or any other negative trait that people may think of them.
People wish to be liked. Being liked has many advantages that greatly overrule being correct or even perceived as correct or asserted as correct.
Friday, September 23, 2011
We all are different
Look for the longest time I figured that logic dictated everything. To a point it does but we all have the logic used in different ways. We all are different. Get used to it. You can't change people. They must change themselves.
Let's say that one guy likes to play video games. Another likes to play sports. One always nags on the other as to what is better. Neither. Both are just as acceptable depending on who you are. We all like different things. I like a ton of things but dislike a few things that generally most guys like. I don't really care either because I am me and they are them. I am my own and so are they. We all like different stuff and it doesn't matter. Just accept that each has their own reasons in doing what they do. So if you can't figure out why those darn kids are skateboarding all the time and they can't figure out why you want them out of your driveway you should think about this concept.
Let's say that one guy likes to play video games. Another likes to play sports. One always nags on the other as to what is better. Neither. Both are just as acceptable depending on who you are. We all like different things. I like a ton of things but dislike a few things that generally most guys like. I don't really care either because I am me and they are them. I am my own and so are they. We all like different stuff and it doesn't matter. Just accept that each has their own reasons in doing what they do. So if you can't figure out why those darn kids are skateboarding all the time and they can't figure out why you want them out of your driveway you should think about this concept.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Neural Programming Theory
Quick note... This is not expressly important to your life however some of the contained concepts may be helpful in some way. Take this with a grain of salt.
So for a long time I had been thinking about how you could make your mind do whatever you want it to. I thought about it a lot in school. Mainly because I have a terrible memory. So here is the paper I have written about it.
Would it not be nice to learn complex things easily? Well listen to this theory. To understand these concepts you must read all of this.
Do you know what subliminal Messages are? If you do then go to paragraph #4. If you do not then I will tell you.
So for a long time I had been thinking about how you could make your mind do whatever you want it to. I thought about it a lot in school. Mainly because I have a terrible memory. So here is the paper I have written about it.
Would it not be nice to learn complex things easily? Well listen to this theory. To understand these concepts you must read all of this.
Do you know what subliminal Messages are? If you do then go to paragraph #4. If you do not then I will tell you.
Monday, September 19, 2011
Looking isn't bad
We all look and no it's not bad. It's an instinct. Plus it's fun to look at the art of the human form. To hide this will just drive you nuts. To hide yourself from the world in certain ways will just frustrate you.
A girl recently posted on yahoo questions about this. She asked if it was bad if her bf told her that her friends or other girls were hot. The answer is no it's not wrong. Sure it may hurt her feelings but only if she is insecure. To be secure about your feelings with another is important for relationships. A woman should be able to express her likes and dislikes in whatever gender she prefers with her mate. A man should also be able to do this.
By expressing those things it doesn't indicate that we like others and the one being told. It just means we like what we see. At least he was being honest. It is interesting to see what the other sex likes anyhow. Why hide it? If you like it why not say something. Be confident in what you like and be confident in who you are as we all are different and are bound to like different or similar things. Enjoy this life you are enabled to live.
A girl recently posted on yahoo questions about this. She asked if it was bad if her bf told her that her friends or other girls were hot. The answer is no it's not wrong. Sure it may hurt her feelings but only if she is insecure. To be secure about your feelings with another is important for relationships. A woman should be able to express her likes and dislikes in whatever gender she prefers with her mate. A man should also be able to do this.
By expressing those things it doesn't indicate that we like others and the one being told. It just means we like what we see. At least he was being honest. It is interesting to see what the other sex likes anyhow. Why hide it? If you like it why not say something. Be confident in what you like and be confident in who you are as we all are different and are bound to like different or similar things. Enjoy this life you are enabled to live.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
The Art of Forgetting
Have you ever had something you really wanted to forget but just couldn't? Like a massive breakup, divorce, death, rape, or other life changing event?
You may try the old way of things such as drinking, talking about it with friends, etc. Why don't those things seem to work? Well you see the whole idea about memory is that the more you think, talk about, or do whatever it is you are trying to forget you actually are ingraining more into your memory. That is how we learn. Everything pretty much is learned. So by thinking about or talking about the thing you are trying to forget about you are actually going to think and remember it more vividly.
You may try the old way of things such as drinking, talking about it with friends, etc. Why don't those things seem to work? Well you see the whole idea about memory is that the more you think, talk about, or do whatever it is you are trying to forget you actually are ingraining more into your memory. That is how we learn. Everything pretty much is learned. So by thinking about or talking about the thing you are trying to forget about you are actually going to think and remember it more vividly.
Monday, September 12, 2011
Concepts - Shallow vs Deep
Most concepts have a shallow way of viewing them as well as much more complex way of viewing them. Most people will view a concept in a shallow way. This is because the mind is designed to work efficiently as possible. We prioritize things. So we generally take a concept as quickly as possible. The people that process more data will view a concept more deeply generally than those that do not process very much data.
However even people that process a lot of data will end up viewing most of life in a shallow way. Sometimes we don't realize there is possibly a deeper reason to things or that we should even investigate to find out if there is or not.
However even people that process a lot of data will end up viewing most of life in a shallow way. Sometimes we don't realize there is possibly a deeper reason to things or that we should even investigate to find out if there is or not.
Friday, September 9, 2011
Overlapping Concepts in Life
Many things in life will overlap. This means that every thing you do will affect other parts of your life. You will notice many topics in this guide to life that overlap. It may seem like I am reiterating things but with different words. This is true but it is required in order to fully understand what is going on.
Everything you learn or do in life will affect everything else you do. Your thinking will begin to overlap many times over. Try to notice this as you develop.
Everything you learn or do in life will affect everything else you do. Your thinking will begin to overlap many times over. Try to notice this as you develop.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Fortune Cookie Statements
Fortune cookies generally have a short message in them that is very cryptic and can be interpreted many different ways.
So when I say fortune cookie statements I am talking about statements people make that are short and cryptic and they think that you understand what they mean.
This is generally because people that have these statements are enlightened in the ways of life to a point where the concept they are trying to convey seems extremely simple to them. They think by saying this very short phrase that you will understand what they mean.
So when I say fortune cookie statements I am talking about statements people make that are short and cryptic and they think that you understand what they mean.
This is generally because people that have these statements are enlightened in the ways of life to a point where the concept they are trying to convey seems extremely simple to them. They think by saying this very short phrase that you will understand what they mean.
Monday, September 5, 2011
New Experiences
Life is all about experiences. Do you like living a copy of the day before over and over again? Sure you might have something awesome to do but it still sucks doing it all the time. Life is awesome when you do new things.
Experiences will teach you things books and others cannot relay to you. The experiences will be there for a lifetime. They are stories that you and your life generate that can be retold for years on end. The more extreme the experience the more extreme the lessons you learn.
The hardest thing I have found to do in life is the things you are afraid of. Most people are afraid of a few things here and there such as swimming or whatever. A general fear though among most humans is talking to new people...sober. It is difficult to get over that rejection. However the more you do the more you learn about not just others but about yourself.
Experiences will teach you things books and others cannot relay to you. The experiences will be there for a lifetime. They are stories that you and your life generate that can be retold for years on end. The more extreme the experience the more extreme the lessons you learn.
The hardest thing I have found to do in life is the things you are afraid of. Most people are afraid of a few things here and there such as swimming or whatever. A general fear though among most humans is talking to new people...sober. It is difficult to get over that rejection. However the more you do the more you learn about not just others but about yourself.
Thursday, September 1, 2011
How to Stop Hyperventilation OR Calm Down / Calm Nerves
There is a strange thing the mind and body have going on. The mind and body communicate and try to stay in sync. Generally the body will do what the mind wants. There is a way to get the mind to do what you consciously want and override the subconscious commands that are being delivered to your body.
Let's say you are hyperventilating because of bad news and you are now having a panic attack. You want to stop breathing hard and want to calm down.
Your body can force your mind to sync up with it. So what you can do is a breathing excessive.
Let's say you are hyperventilating because of bad news and you are now having a panic attack. You want to stop breathing hard and want to calm down.
Your body can force your mind to sync up with it. So what you can do is a breathing excessive.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Nature vs Nurture
Since this topic is what actually forms who you from the beginning we can start here.
Let's first define the terms.
Nature
Let's first define the terms.
Nature
- The physical world and how it operates without mankind interfering with it.
- Genetic dispositions of a person which affect personality, physical growth, and mental capabilities.
- Influences of mankind or nature that mold and change the outcome a human being.
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Forethought Negatives
Forethought is mainly used to self preservation of the human body as well as a persons emotional state.
The forethought can be helpful as well as harmful. It becomes harmful when intellect fabricates an abnormal amount of assumptions. A lack of intellect can also cause an abnormal amount of assumptions.
The forethought can be helpful as well as harmful. It becomes harmful when intellect fabricates an abnormal amount of assumptions. A lack of intellect can also cause an abnormal amount of assumptions.
- With a shallow perception of the world you can only guess so much.
- With a deeper understanding of the world you will guess much more.
Forethought / Decisions / Intellect - The Dynamic
The mind basically is going to determine risk to your happiness and use that to make an educated decision.
Some people may be seen to make terrible decisions as they lack forethought. This is because of the amount of variables their mind is able to conjure up.
Let's for instance use a math equation for this.
Mind A - Small intellectual knowledge base
X + Y + Z = 7 value forecast of negatives
Mind B - Large intellectual knowledge base
A + B + C + D + E + F + G + H + I = 47
Some people may be seen to make terrible decisions as they lack forethought. This is because of the amount of variables their mind is able to conjure up.
Let's for instance use a math equation for this.
Mind A - Small intellectual knowledge base
X + Y + Z = 7 value forecast of negatives
Mind B - Large intellectual knowledge base
A + B + C + D + E + F + G + H + I = 47
Wanting vs Doing
The mind is a funny thing. You may feel you want to do something yet for some reason you just don't do it. This is a common thing people overlook and claim the person just has no idea what they are saying.
There are feelings and there is logic. Wanting to do something generally comes from an emotional feeling wanting to be met. However the mind presents logic opposed to it. Or the situation may be in reverse. The action generally is caused from whichever is stronger at the moment.
There are feelings and there is logic. Wanting to do something generally comes from an emotional feeling wanting to be met. However the mind presents logic opposed to it. Or the situation may be in reverse. The action generally is caused from whichever is stronger at the moment.
This does not excuse behavior, it only explains it.
Why social skills will be important to you
Social skills are extremely important in life for a variety of reasons that cannot be matched by intellect.
Intellect will help you achieve great things in life but will not alone make you a happy individual. Happiness is however your primary directive in life.
Reasons why seduction and social skills are important. This is not an exhaustive list but a good starting point.
Intellect will help you achieve great things in life but will not alone make you a happy individual. Happiness is however your primary directive in life.
Reasons why seduction and social skills are important. This is not an exhaustive list but a good starting point.
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