Comfort Zone - Getting Out

Your comfort zone is the zone in which you tend to stay in. This provides you with reasonable amount of happiness as you are sure of the things in your comfort zone.

• It would be things that you think are correct
• Places you like to go
• Things you like to do
• People you like to talk to
• Games you like to play
• Food you like to eat
• Other things you are comfortable with

This is perfectly normal. This just means that those things have already been validated that you know pleases you.

Study vs Having Fun

It is important to study to do well in school but it is also important to have fun.

Studies
If you study without fun you will become boring, ant-social, depressed, disconnected, and not know how to deal with people in the real world.

It is important to know to deal with people in the real world because if you cannot network or do well socially you will have a hard time finding jobs, finding a life partner, getting raises, making friends, enjoying life, and most of all knowing yourself. Being social will help you understand yourself more than you can comprehend at the start of your life.

Don't Mix Ammonia with Bleach

Ammonia and bleach are two common household cleaning products. Do not ever mix them as it creates a gas that you will choke to death on.

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Don't mix ammonia with bleach!!!

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The primary toxic chemical caused from the reaction is chloramine vapor, and possibly a hydrazine formation. (Yes it says chloramine and not chlorine)

Women are like cats

Women are like cats...

If you pester them they never want petted or held. If you leave them alone they will come sit on your lap and put their ass in your face.

OK OK...that was a bit graphic but women really are like cats. Not all of them but most of them to an extent. Let me explain...

Life changes...roll with it

Older people seem to live calmly and happy and without a care in the world. Why is that?

They have gained enough experiences in life to cope with whatever comes at them. (for the most part)

We can only deal with things if we have a coping system in place to process the situation. The more experiences you have in life the stronger the coping methods you will devise on the fly. Sometimes you will have to work hard to figure out solutions to your problems. (solutions - coping methods)

Christian vs Atheist vs Other Belief Systems

Let's start off by understanding that we all have a belief system. What I mean by this is that we all have a status of belief on why we are here.

• Atheist - Believe that no deities exist and that science governs the origins of existence and the operation of the universe
• Christianity - A variety of belief systems that generally contain Christ in their beliefs. Generally a deity created and governs the universe.
• Other Belief Systems - Other belief systems are a combination of actually believing in a deity /deities / science.
• Agnostic - A variety of beliefs commonly stating that there may or may not be a deity but have not settled on anything specific that they believe defines the creation of the universe or the operation of it.

OK so now we have a few groups defined. Within every group however there are always variations. First we can look at Christianity and see that there are a large variety of different varieties. Some examples may include, baptist, Methodist, Evangelical, Protestant, Mormon, Catholic, etc.

Why people don't say what is on their minds

Some people believe that people should just say what is on their mind so that everything is out in the open so that everyone can clearly understand what is thought about any particular thing or person.

However there is an instinctual and social reason that many people do not say everything they wish.

People generally do not want to be seen as condescending and over opinionated or any other negative trait that people may think of them.

People wish to be liked. Being liked has many advantages that greatly overrule being correct or even perceived as correct or asserted as correct.

We all are different

Look for the longest time I figured that logic dictated everything. To a point it does but we all have the logic used in different ways. We all are different. Get used to it. You can't change people. They must change themselves.

Let's say that one guy likes to play video games. Another likes to play sports. One always nags on the other as to what is better. Neither. Both are just as acceptable depending on who you are. We all like different things. I like a ton of things but dislike a few things that generally most guys like. I don't really care either because I am me and they are them. I am my own and so are they. We all like different stuff and it doesn't matter. Just accept that each has their own reasons in doing what they do. So if you can't figure out why those darn kids are skateboarding all the time and they can't figure out why you want them out of your driveway you should think about this concept.

Looking isn't bad

We all look and no it's not bad. It's an instinct. Plus it's fun to look at the art of the human form. To hide this will just drive you nuts. To hide yourself from the world in certain ways will just frustrate you.

A girl recently posted on yahoo questions about this. She asked if it was bad if her bf told her that her friends or other girls were hot. The answer is no it's not wrong. Sure it may hurt her feelings but only if she is insecure. To be secure about your feelings with another is important for relationships. A woman should be able to express her likes and dislikes in whatever gender she prefers with her mate. A man should also be able to do this.

By expressing those things it doesn't indicate that we like others and the one being told. It just means we like what we see. At least he was being honest. It is interesting to see what the other sex likes anyhow. Why hide it? If you like it why not say something. Be confident in what you like and be confident in who you are as we all are different and are bound to like different or similar things. Enjoy this life you are enabled to live.

Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Mr. Right, Ms. Right, The one? Is there just one?

This question is asked my millions of people everywhere. The answer is definitely no. It all comes to a point of perspective. For instance if you find your mate then live with them for the rest of your life enjoyably you will say they were your Mr. or Ms. Right. That however doesn't mean that if that person never had found that person they wouldn't have found another to enjoy their rest of their life with or until that point in time when you ask them.

Do not expect to just wait and find the perfect person and then date them. You will never find that person if you wait to find that person. You must actively keep connecting with those of the opposite sex. This will help you learn about yourself and about others. It will help you learn what you are truly like and what others are like. One example never fully covers the spectrum of a group. You must take many samples into account before making a decision.

The Art of Forgetting

Have you ever had something you really wanted to forget but just couldn't? Like a massive breakup, divorce, death, rape, or other life changing event?

You may try the old way of things such as drinking, talking about it with friends, etc. Why don't those things seem to work? Well you see the whole idea about memory is that the more you think, talk about, or do whatever it is you are trying to forget you actually are ingraining more into your memory. That is how we learn. Everything pretty much is learned. So by thinking about or talking about the thing you are trying to forget about you are actually going to think and remember it more vividly.

Tangled Cords

Most times you will end up putting a bunch of cords in a box or drawer. Then they get all tangled up. An easy way to prevent this is to get zip lock bags and put the cords in the bags. Then you can throw all the bags into a drawer or box as usual.

Concepts - Shallow vs Deep

Most concepts have a shallow way of viewing them as well as much more complex way of viewing them. Most people will view a concept in a shallow way. This is because the mind is designed to work efficiently as possible. We prioritize things. So we generally take a concept as quickly as possible. The people that process more data will view a concept more deeply generally than those that do not process very much data.

However even people that process a lot of data will end up viewing most of life in a shallow way. Sometimes we don't realize there is possibly a deeper reason to things or that we should even investigate to find out if there is or not.

Overlapping Concepts in Life

Many things in life will overlap. This means that every thing you do will affect other parts of your life. You will notice many topics in this guide to life that overlap. It may seem like I am reiterating things but with different words. This is true but it is required in order to fully understand what is going on.

Everything you learn or do in life will affect everything else you do. Your thinking will begin to overlap many times over. Try to notice this as you develop.

Fortune Cookie Statements

Fortune cookies generally have a short message in them that is very cryptic and can be interpreted many different ways.

So when I say fortune cookie statements I am talking about statements people make that are short and cryptic and they think that you understand what they mean.

This is generally because people that have these statements are enlightened in the ways of life to a point where the concept they are trying to convey seems extremely simple to them. They think by saying this very short phrase that you will understand what they mean.

New Experiences

Life is all about experiences. Do you like living a copy of the day before over and over again? Sure you might have something awesome to do but it still sucks doing it all the time. Life is awesome when you do new things.

Experiences will teach you things books and others cannot relay to you. The experiences will be there for a lifetime. They are stories that you and your life generate that can be retold for years on end. The more extreme the experience the more extreme the lessons you learn.

The hardest thing I have found to do in life is the things you are afraid of. Most people are afraid of a few things here and there such as swimming or whatever. A general fear though among most humans is talking to new people...sober. It is difficult to get over that rejection. However the more you do the more you learn about not just others but about yourself.

DIY Skills You Should Have

Everyone should know the basics to DIY. This will help you stay alive and not have to suffer so much.

Tools
I would recommend knowing what the following tools look like.

Ideals and Outcomes

Ideals are what your logical constructs see as an optimal situation or outcome. We all have them. Reality however is composed of many peoples ideas of ideals as well as things that cannot be fully mastered as of yet, for example the universe and its laws of nature.

When your ideals are crushed between realities big fat gnashing teeth you become upset as your projection was wrong. This means that your logical constructs projected an incorrect outcome or situation. When this happens you become upset or frustrated.

Emotion vs Logic

Emotion and logic are generally in a fight to see who wins. Honestly emotion always wins in the long run of the decision but in the short term the emotions can lose out.

For instance let's say that you are playing rock paper scissors or some other quick petty game. Now in this game you are going to play to figure out who gets to pick the movie of the night. So whoever wins the most out of five tries will win the movie pick. So let's say you start and it goes like this:

How to Stop Hyperventilation OR Calm Down / Calm Nerves

There is a strange thing the mind and body have going on. The mind and body communicate and try to stay in sync. Generally the body will do what the mind wants. There is a way to get the mind to do what you consciously want and override the subconscious commands that are being delivered to your body.

Let's say you are hyperventilating because of bad news and you are now having a panic attack. You want to stop breathing hard and want to calm down.

Your body can force your mind to sync up with it. So what you can do is a breathing excessive.